There’s such a thing as Sibling Position

According to Murray Bowen at least. Jordan shared this and I thought it’s riveting so I’m posting it here. And it’s just funny that his study (Bowen) is quite accurate to say the least. But I kinda disagree on some points but in general, Mr. Bowen hits home! 🙂

So this is me….

7. Oldest Sister of Brother(s): “She can take care of men, at least she could, if one would let her. But usually she does find opportunities. She is independent and strong in a inconspicious way. Often one only notices in retrospect how well taken, foresightful and competent her actions have been. She does not insist on the credit, at least as long as the men whom she did things for get it. She is practical, concrete, of a healthy egotism, and sometimes self-effacing, although chiefly for her men…Officially in a leading position, she is, in general, tactful and unoffensive to those working under her, shows a strict, yet kind, efficiency, and is able to regulate work gracefully and expediently…female friends are less important to her than they would be to the oldest and youngest sister of sister(s) only. Her friendships would be on condition. Her friends would have to serve a purpose.” (Now I beg to disagree on female friends being less important. Actually, I need my girlfriends, almost always. So my beautiful girls are really equally if not more important than my guy comrades.)

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OK NOW LET’S MAKE THIS FUN & HAVE EVERYONE PARTICIPATE. AFTER LETTING ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK THROUGH MAKING A COMMENT, COPY & PASTE THE SIBLING POSITION YOU ARE IN BELOW SO YOU CAN THEN MAKE YOUR OWN POST. THEN YOU COULD JUST TAG & REPEAT THIS PROCESS & FIND OUT FROM YOUR OTHER FRIENDS MORE ABOUT YOURSELF & THEN THEY TOO MAY JOIN. YEAH, HE MADE THIS ONE UP. ENJOY!

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THE SIBLING POSITIONS:

1. Oldest Brother of Brother(s)
“He is a leader, the master of other men, whether he shows it by force or cunning. He is in charge. He is in control, not so much of a fieldof work or endeavor as he is of other people in that field…He is on good terms with other males- except for another another oldest brother of brothers…He is a tough guy with women. He will not fall for any of them, nut be delighted and thrilled, though outwardly unwincing, if they fall for him. He will tend to treat girls like younger brothers and expect them to live up to his assignements…Generally speaking, friendships tend to be strong and a welcome supplement of marriage. If…[he] can keep his friends, he will find it easier to get along with his wife. One friend might be too little. A gang of friends would appear to be more satisfying.

2. Youngest Brother of Brother(s)
“He is a capricious and willful man, a person who can surprise and amaze his elders by his daring, but who can also annoy and antagonize them…He is not a leader. If in any position in authority, he will appear to lack stability, justice and insight into the various problems involved…He is a soft one with women, a gentleman, a cavalier, even where he plays the tough one or the cynic. He is shy, ackward, almost innocent, and women are often willing to bestow much more on him than he asked for…As for male friends, he get’s along best with older brother of brother(s)…So important are male friends to the youngest brother of brother(s) tha he will sometimes be willing to sacrifice a girl in order to keep a boy. He flocks to prophets, advisors, [superintendents] and psychotherapy, and usually loves what he can get.”

3. Oldest Brother of Sister(s)
“He is a friend of all the girls and ladies, whether sincerely or with tongue in cheek. Love of the tender sex is the most important of all concerns, no matter how important his other engagements…He can accept authorities as long as they do not interefere in his private affairs…if the person in the superior position is a woman, he will concede that she may be broad in her outlook and have a say in things other than her field of competence. However, the woman must always keep in mind that she is a woman and that, in this very capacity, she has to be the subordinate, the submissive, patient, and wise friend…The oldest brother of sister(s) is usually not ‘one of the boys’. He is no gang man. There is nothing in the company of men that could be had as well or better from women.”

4. Youngest Brother of Sister(s)
“He’s a girl’s boy. They love him. They dote on him. He evokes all kinds of maternal instincts in them. It does not matter what he undertakes or where he is heading, they will tend to be around, assist him in his endeavors or, more ofter, take care of his physical needs…Where his talents are great, he is capable of real accomplishments, preferably as an individual or as the star of a team. He can lose himself in the pursuit of his work, provided there is little interferance from others, especially males, and provided some motherly females look after some of the bare necessities of life…His work will sometimes be sloppy, though usually adequate, and at other times a masterpiece. He will surprise his superiors forever by these functions and his apparent, though not intrisic, reluctance to take any orders at all…His pyschological understanding of people, particularly those working under him, is often lacking…IT should be mentioned that he may also establish something like friendships or platonic relationships with older women, or women who have held senior positions among siblings, or both. These may be his real and true friendships, the ones he cares for much than he does for all those with males.”

5. Oldest Sister of Sister (s):
“ She can stand on her own feet, take care of others, and even boss them to an extent. Where she cannot, she would still like to very strongly…. At work is likely to be responsible, competent, and to get things done. This is particularly true where she is in some position of leadership. This position need not always be recognized officially. She will tend to identify with her superior, who must be male in order for her to accept his authority.. For men she is a hard girl to make. She tends to rebuff advances for quite a while. Often she appears so strong and independent that she discourages them anyway… She does not encourage flirtation and courtship either, much to her own regret when she has set her heart on a man who does not notice this. “

6. Youngest Sister of Sister(s):
“ She likes an adventurous and colorful life. She wants entertainment and change, and if it does not come quite as she desires, she may seek it actively, though haphazardly, and often on the spur of the moment… Although at first she is more successful with men than other girls, she is too capricious, willful, competitive, or distractible and unstable to hold her conquest after a while, or even to stay interested herself.. In almost no case would she be good leader and boss of others.”

7. Oldest Sister of Brother(s):
“She can take care of men, at least she could, if one would let her. But usually she does find opportunities. She is independent and strong in a inconspicious way. Often one only notices in retrospect how well taken, foresightful and competent her actions have been. She does not insist on the credit, at least as long as the men whom she did things for get it. She is practical, concrete, of a healthy egotism, and sometimes self-effacing, although chiefly for her men…POfficially in a leading position, she is, in general, tactful and unoffensive to those working under her, shows a strict, yet kind, efficiency, and is able to regulate work gracefully and expediently…female friends are less important to her than they would be to the oldest and youngest sister of sister(s) only. Her friendships would be on condition. Her friends would have to serve a purpose.”

8. Youngest Sister of Brother(s) :
“ She can attract men better than other girls can. This holds for most men. She is usually everything a man wants a girl to be; feminine, friendly, and kind; sensitive and tactful; submissive without being subservient, devoted; a good companion of men or at least a rather good sport… She may be oblivious of a man’s feelings and occasionally quite selfish, but seldom in serious issues nor ever when she has committed herself to a man. At work she is the ideal employee, the best person to work under somebody’s guidance. She is an excellent secretary, particularly to men. She keeps track of everything she is supposed to and does not have to told in detail… She gets along well with her male fellow workers. They find her nice, charming, considerate and trustworthy, although a little too loyal to her boss and her duties. Women do not always like her. Yet they are seldom able to put their fingers on what they are gripping about. She is not friendly enough to them. She is not on their side. “

9. Intermediary Sibling Positions:
This is the most blended of all the profiles since it factors in the experience of being a younger and an older sibling, sometimes with boys older and sometimes with girls older, and sometimes with boys or girls younger. For example, “If a boy has been the oldest of both brother(s) and sister(s) , he combines characteristics of an oldest brother of brother(s) , and an oldest brother of sister(s). He is on good terms with boys and girls alike- somewhat softened in the perfectionism that he would demonstrate as the oldest brother of brother(s) , and softened, too, in the dislike of the oldest brother of sister(s) for comradeship, male gangs , or simply being one of the boys. He is a relatively kind and tolerant leader of men.” Or another example, “ If a boy has older sister(s) and younger brother(s) and younger sister(s) he combines features of a middle brother of sisters and an oldest brother of brother(s). However he is usually on better terms with men than the first and has less need to control or even to make over the girl of his choice than the second. He would also tend to be less irritated by the fact that he can marry only one woman at a time than the first one… with a large number of siblings, there is always a tendency to split up into a smaller group. Age gaps, proximity, sex distribution, but also special events at certain times, such as migration, substitution of a parent who has left or died, loss of siblings, etc., determine the subdivision. “

10. The Only Child:
”Trivial as it may sound, the chief characteristics of the only child is that he is the only one of his kind, and that he remains a child often way into adulthood. He or she has not been used to omnipresence of other children at home. Neighbor or cousins cannot make up for it, because they are not around the house at almost all times and occasions as siblings are. .. In case of a male, the only child is used to being the favorite of two adults, his parents, their pride and joy. He is used to winning acclaim, arousing sympathy, concern, sorrow, and the like, and getting all possible support on a moment’s notice. Hence he will tend to believe at work that, here too, he should be the center of his peers’ and his superiors’ attention.. In case of a female, the only child would show similar trends. She would tend to be somewhat more capricious, extravagant, and even selfish, than other girls. It is rather difficult for her to understand what really goes on in other people’s minds, except for those few who seem to understand hers… At work- if ever she gets around to it- she is often a nuisance. Not that she could not work. She may have excellent capabilities. But she won’t do it for the purposes that her employers have in mind. She is often ready to find thousands of excuses for not doing or doing things that she is or is not, respectively, expected to. She will be a poor sport with her colleagues.

11. Twins:
“They are a twosome that is different from that of any other two siblings. They were together from birth on. There is no real senior or junior.. If they are the only children that the parents have, they will behave like brother and sister, two brothers, or like two sisters depending on what their sexes are…Hence the character portraits of the oldest and the youngest brother will blend for each of the twin boys, and that of the oldest sister and the youngest sister for the twin girls. In the case of two boys or two girls, the pairs will eventually have some trouble separating and taking the step into marriage. “

I don’t want to tag anyone, but if you find this amusing then go ahead and repost! 🙂

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5 thoughts on “There’s such a thing as Sibling Position

  1. aia says:

    sali sana ako. wala nga lang akong kaptid. ahahahah

  2. Allison says:

    mine’s totally true!! number 8.haha

  3. carms says:

    “Her friends would have to serve a purpose”…a little negative, it think, but true 🙂

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